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Man Told to 'Suck It Up' After Being Harassed by Female Coworkers


Man Told to ‘Suck It Up’ After Being Harassed by Female Coworkers

Staffer was fired one week after making sexual harassment complaint

Federal law is clear: sexual harassment victims can be male or female. Perpetrators of sexual harassment may also be of either sex.

Yet it seems that men often have a hard time getting anyone to take their sexual harassment complaints seriously — and that may be especially true for men who work in fields dominated by women.

Let’s take a look at a recent case where this happened and then discuss what it means to you.

A male minority

Ralph Oberdorf was one of very few men on the skilled nursing staff at Penn Village Facility Operations

He claims that over the period of a year, his female supervisor continually made disparaging comments about his gender. She allegedly said told Oberdorf that he “must be gay” in order to be a male nurse.

She supposedly also commented on Oberdorf’s buttocks and talked about how his girlfriend must like giving him lap dances.

Oberdorf complained to upper management several times, but says that he was told to “suck it up” and “put on [his] big boy pants.”

He claims that his complaints were not investigated or addressed. Rather, he says that his work was put under the microscope as he was subjected to additional scrutiny.

He was fired one week after making his last complaint. He was told that his termination was prompted by a patient interaction, although Oberdorf says he was uncertain what the problem was.

Oberdorf got a lawyer and sued, claiming that the company fired him in retaliation for his sexual harassment complaints. He noted that a female coworker had once given a patient incorrect medication and had not been fired, so the stated reason for his termination seemed flimsy.

The company attempted to have the case thrown out, but the court refused.

Oberdorf was allowed to proceed with his case. Now the company must defend itself in front a jury.

(The case discussed here is Oberdorf v. Penn Village Facility Operations.)

What It Means to You

It’s important to know that sexual harassment can come in many forms, and not all of those forms involve unwelcome sexual advances.

Disparaging someone because of his or her gender may also be considered sexual harassment in certain circumstances.

While the law doesn’t oppose teasing or offhand remarks, it does note that certain speech may cross the line. That is, situations that are frequent and severe enough to affect a person’s working conditions may be considered unlawful.

Contact Us Now for Consultation

If you believe that you’ve been subjected to unlawful treatment due to your gender, it’s a good idea to speak to an attorney.

Call or email us today to discuss your unique situation.

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